In my life coaching blog, I often write about difficult times I’ve gone through. I find this helps me learn from my mistakes and I hope it helps my readers.
One thing I’m very clear about is that I never write about something until I’ve gone through it and come out the other side. If I’m still upset or feel that it should have gone down differently, then I don’t write about it—at least for publication.
When we write in a “lesson” style, we have to know what the lesson is. We can’t be in the middle of the mess wondering how we’re going to survive—that’s not why people read our words.
It’s not that we have to know everything or portray ourselves as perfect, but we have to have some clarity about the experience—why we went through it and what we learned from it. If not, we are just venting to our readers.
For example, I often write about the fact that it took me nine years to have my son. That was a difficult and, ultimately, amazingly positive experience. If I’d written about it before I got to the point where I was truly okay with whatever happened with that experience, I would be just another person telling a sad story. While that may have interested a few people, I believe the really interesting part, especially to someone who is struggling with infertility, is that I got to a place of peace—before I got pregnant with my son—and how I got there.
There are many topics that I feel qualified to write about, from a life coaching perspective, because I’ve been through many experiences and gone through them with my clients and patients.
There are also many things I don’t write about—not because I don’t have passion for the topics, but because I’m not through processing them. Those are still journal entries, rough drafts of essays, or even blog posts, but they are for my eyes only.
What do you write about? What don’t you write about? Why?
Diane MacKinnon: Mom, life coach, writer. Hope everyone is enjoying this amazing summer we are having. 97 degrees today–again!