What’s your dream as a writer? Is it to see your name on a book in the bookstore? Is it to see your byline in the New York Times or the New Yorker? Is it to see a child reading your book and laughing?
When you think about that dream—the one you really, really want—how does it feel?
When you think about becoming a best-selling author, do you feel good? Happy, excited? Or do you feel defeated or diminished?
When you find out a friend just had something published and you think: That’ll be me someday–How does that feel?
I could be wrong, but I believe that if you feel lousy when you think about your big dream, it’s much less likely to come true.
How can you feel good when you think that big dream is so far out of your reach?
Start by making a list.
Make a list of 10 things you want in your life. Could be big or small. Anything you want
My list always starts with “a good cup of coffee.” Now, of the 10 things on that list, how many of them do you already have?
None? One? More?
Okay, let’s try this list again.
Make a list of 10 things you want in your life that you already have.
My list always starts with “a good cup of coffee.”
- I want a good cup of coffee. Got it! Yes, feels good.
- I want my son Joey. Got him! Yes, feels good.
- I want to be able to spend time writing. Got it! Yes, feels good.
You get the idea. When we want from a place of abundance, that place of already having what we want, it creates an entirely different feeling than wanting from a place of scarcity. Wanting something you don’t think you can have (or don’t deserve) feels bad, and it’s my opinion that wanting from that place doesn’t get us very far.
See your prayer already answered. See your dream fulfilled. Believe it will come true.
That’s not an easy task. So practice.
Start by wanting what you already have, then practice wanting things you’re pretty sure you can get. This will give you a feeling of satisfaction or contentment, which will help you get into the mindset of knowing that, whatever your heart truly desires, you can have in your life.
With practice, you can get to a place where you think: I want to be a best selling author, and it feels great—because a part of you knows it’s going to happen—it’s a done deal. When you feel good about becoming a best selling author (or whatever your dream is) you will take more action, better action, and your results, inevitably, will be to get what you want.
Try it, and let me know what happens.
Diane MacKinnon, MD, is currently a full-time mother, part-time life coach. She is a Master Certified Life Coach, trained by Martha Beck, among others. She is passionate about her son, her writing and using her mind to create a wonderful present moment. Find her life coaching blog at http://www.dianemackinnon.com/blog.