As a bit of an introvert – okay, more than a bit – I sometimes let the voice in my head talk me out of showing up for events.
These can be networking events, business meetings, 5K races, sip & paint nights, meetups, and generally any activities that involve several people (whether I know them or not).
This also extends to starting/trying new writing-related projects or activities – personal or client-based.
There’s always inspiration and excitement when first agreeing to do something, but when the date arrives to actually “do” that something, excuses can pour out of the ceiling like rain drops. Do any of these sound like the voice in your head?
- Oh no, that sniffle might be the start of a cold. Skip it.
- It’s going to rain, you don’t want to get we. Skip it.
- It’s going to be hot and humid, you might die. Skip it.
- You won’t know anyone there. Skip it.
- You aren’t fully prepared. Skip it.
- There’s no time to grab a meal first. Skip it.
- There won’t be anything good to eat. Skip it.
- You can attend the next one. Skip it.
- You’ve never done that before so you’ll look silly. Skip it.
In 2016, I talked myself out of numerous activities for reasons like those above – basically, no good reason. I always said out loud, though, “I am purposely choosing not to go,” so that my true self wouldn’t pile on the guilt. However lame the reason was, I purposely chose to avoid activities, so took responsibility.
However, choosing to skip things resulted in numerous missed opportunities to meet new people, try new things, achieve new goals, and push myself out of my comfort zone. Negative results were particularly obvious from the physical activities I avoided.
This year I have made the commitment to myself, and told others, that I will at least “show up” for everything I commit to. And then once there, that is when I can choose whether or not to participate. I’m 99.9% confident that making the effort to show up will result in full follow through.
Isaac Newton said, “An object in motion will stay in motion unless acted upon by a equal or stronger force.”
I challenge you to stay in motion and “show up” for any commitment you’ve made – in person or online, whether personal or work-related – “then decide” whether or not to at least give it an honest try.
Lisa J. Jackson is an independent writer and editor who enjoys working with businesses of all sizes. She loves researching topics, interviewing experts, and helping companies and individuals tell their stories. You can connect with her on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn.
these thoughts all sound familiar! William Blake used to say to his demons; you are but a fool! And that was before mindfulness had been invented (at least as a word!) – mindfulness is the key; feel the fear and do it!
I do usually show up when I have committed…it’s the making the commitment in the first place… um, well…I think I have something planned..let me check my calendar and get back to you.
Thanks, Lisa. This was perfect for me. Nice to know I’m not alone, but you’ve also made me think twice.
Love your take on showing up! Just do it, and go with the flow!
Thank you for this. I have also avoided many social events because of silly reasons, and sometimes I end up wondering what might have happened if I actually went. 😀
I can absolutely relate! It always sounds so great when I first agree, but as time draws closer I begin to search for reasons not to attend. I accept your challenge!